February 11, 2016

How to Start Unpacking Your Story

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One of the things that I love most about what I do is that it’s a process of excavation.

After having spent decades exploring my own life and history, I get to be a guide for someone else – an archaeologist on the journey of his or her life.

We dig and root around a little; we play. There are tears sometimes, of course, but truthfully: whenever we begin to make connections – to understand how our experiences have shaped the way that we think, feel, and make decisions – life suddenly becomes incredibly interesting.

That feeling of A-ha. That 6th sense moment where you realize not only THAT every guy you ever dated is like your dad but why. It’s worth every tear you shed because you gain insight. Moreover? It’s when change starts to occur.

And people come to me with all sorts of software already installed. Sometimes they’ve been in therapy before, telling me about insights that have already been gained. In other instances we’re starting from scratch, and a lot of people just don’t know where to begin.

A young woman sitting in my office recently asked me, “So where do we start?”

And I want to share my response with you in case it helps. Perhaps it’ll give you a sense of where you can start.

I said, “If you were to write your memoirs, what events stand out?”

Once that fire had officially been lit, my next question was: WHY are these events important? How have they made you who you are?

Sometimes we need an invitation to start thinking about the experiences that have shaped us, and the impact that they’ve had.

But if you want to take these questions to your journal – here goes:

  • If you were to write your memoirs, what events would you include?
  • Why would you include them?
  • How have they shaped the way that you view yourself, other people, or the world itself?

This is just a little invitation to start thinking about your autobiography, and how you came to be the person you are – all the good, the bad, and everything in between 🙂

If you have any reactions that you want to talk about with me, you can find me in the private Facebook group that I have set-up for the subscribers to my newsletter list – and you can join us right here.

xo

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