How to Transcend Fear: My interview with Terri Cole
I recently sat down with my friend and colleague, Terri Cole, so that we could talk about FEAR. Fear is an interesting topic to me, especially as it impacts our ability to move forward and make progress on our goals. As I discuss in the eBook, fears of both failure and success are very real things – and for many people they can be paralyzing. I was super excited to…
Growth vs. change in relationships – and whether either is possible
People often ask me if I truly believe that people can change, and I always answer with the same response: “If I didn’t, I’d be out of a job.” I know for sure that people don’t change unless they want to, nor until they’re significantly motivated to do it, but I see people change all the time – every day, in fact. We reach a new level of discussion, however,…
Why It’s OK To Get Upset About “First World Problems”
If you’re like most people, my guess is that – at least some of the time – you feel a little blue or a little anxious. Maybe you feel more than a little that way. Regardless, figuring out the why can be tough, right? Especially when you’re constantly being told to “think positively,” or to stop complaining about your “first world problems.” What you might not know is that those messages may, in fact,…
A Resolution Revolution
We all know the drill. As one year draws to a close, a new one begins, and with it comes the promise of Radical Transformation. New year? New you! So we scheme and we strive. We make lists. We concoct new patterns of behaviors that will upend everything we ever thought we knew about ourselves. We’ll engage in new hobbies (or so we tell ourselves). Read Proust. Start the gym…
The Most &*%^ $%&*!^ Time of The Year
As I type this I’m sitting in a San Francisco cafe with campy Christmas music on blast. Fresh off the presses is national news about people who recently resorted to fisticuffs over flat screen TVs, and one woman even got tased in a mall. It may be “the most wonderful” time of the year, but in some ways it’s also the most bizarre. Please don’t get me wrong – I…
What’s really happening when working out is hard
Since I released When Change Takes Time (the eBook), I’ve been surprised by how many people have gotten back to me saying that what they’re primarily struggling with has to do with their physical bodies. You said it, and I heard you: You want to lose weight, get healthy, or exercise more – but you feel stuck. I know that this is a challenge for many people – so hearing…
Why Change Takes Time
If you’ve been on a path of personal growth for a while, I’m guessing you’ve hit at least a few speed bumps along the way. If you’re anything like me or anyone else I know (if you are, in a word, human) you’ve probably felt frustrated at times, or wished that creating the change that you want to see were a faster, easier, process. Of course, in some ways we…
“It’s All In Your Head” ~ A Psychologist’s Take On Mind Over Medicine
When Lissa Rankin first told me that she was writing a book about the impact that our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs can have on our physical health, I was enthralled. Million of neurons began to fire while I recalled what I’ve learned about this subject, and I felt like my brain had been set on fire. I hope that doesn’t sound too dramatic. Well I just finished reading the book and I…
It’s A Cliche For A Reason
Lately a number of people have expressed to me that they think it’s surprising and strange that their past circumstances contribute to their current reality. More than one person has told me that it literally feels like a “cliché” to them that their relationship with their parents, for example, bears weight on the way that they see the world. One young woman was stunned by the revelation that her relationship…
“It Could Be Worse”
This post is for anyone who ever told themselves that their problems weren’t a big deal because someone, somewhere, has it worse. You know what I’m talking about, right? The kind of thinking where, despite the fact that you’re going through (or went through) real challenges, you dismiss them because you feel guilty for “complaining” about something so trivial. I call this the “My-mother-got-cancer-and-then-my-father-lost-his-job-and-then-we-had-to-move-in-with-my-grandparents-and-then-my-after-school-tutor-molested-me, but-it’s-OK-because-at-least-I-didn’t-grow-up-in-Somalia” kind of thinking. I’m being…
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